A lot of guys think that once they have a girl's number, success!

Not so.

Just because you have a woman's number, it doesn't necessarily mean much.

It's quite possible that the girl took a liking to you, and you came across as cool dude. But a RANDOM dude nonetheless.

Sometimes women are flattered when they are asked for their number. So she gives it to you.

Sometimes women feel too guilty and bad to say "no" because you seem like a cool guy and they don't want you to think they're a bitch.

Even if, in the moment, she gives you her number and she would like you to call her, it doesn't mean that two days later when you DO call, that she'll be in same headspace. The fire of the moment is gone and now she starts to rationalize reasons not to take your call.

That's why most of the phone numbers that men get may be good for feeding their egos, but in reality are worthless pieces of paper.

You could go up to dozens of women, give them a compliment or ask for their opinion on something, and then get their number - but 90% of the numbers you would get this way would lead to dead ends and message machines.

So what's the key to getting QUALITY phone numbers and not just quantity ?

Most throwaway phone numbers are a result of the man getting the number too fast .

First of all, if you're at a bar and meet a girl, don't talk to her for only five minutes and then jump for the phone number and leave thinking you're going to score. After all, what's the point of getting a phone number in the first place... to meet up later and continue the seduction, right?

But you had her right there at the bar, right THEN. You could have used that opportunity to seduce her right THEN. You were on a "date" with her right THEN. So getting a number so that you can meet up with her later, and walking away from the interaction in the moment is totally counterproductive and nonsensical.

Also, if you get her phone number without going through the proper preliminary steps, then yes, the girl might be digging you, but in reality you didn't have enough social value to her for her to want to start an ongoing, dating relationship with you.

A girl who with a social value of 8 might give her number to you if she perceives you to have a social value of 6. but that doesn't mean she'll follow up with you.