Most men men play the "Player's deck" in their dating lives and wonder why a woman doesn't want anything to do with them after their cheap make out session or one-night rendezvous. They rationalize that since they made out with her, got physical with her at the club or maybe even had sex with her that night, that it is a "solidified close" and that a woman will yearn for their company again. Not quite.!

In fact, think about how many times have you gotten physical or intimate with a woman too soon, then got her number to try to contact her again and she acts abrasive or stand-offish. We've all been there and it is a very frustrating feeling BUT it doesn't have to be like that.

See there are many phases in the courtship continuum that a woman must pass through to want to see you in her future and not just in her present or for the moment.

The first phase is to "attract" her by demonstrating that we are alpha, confident, dominant and can fulfill her sexual needs, however is this enough to get her to want to see you again and again? We both know the answer to this as we've experienced it right guys? The answer is NO!

Why? Because as much as women love sex and like to move towards feelings of sexual pleasure, they have an opposing need to avoid the pain of being considered slutty or easy. Furthermore, women backward rationalize and easily get buyer's remorse for a lot of their choices when it comes to men and dating as they are emotionally driven in this area.

So going back to our case, let's say that with you go to a club, meet a woman and all that exists between you and her is "raw sexual attraction" which eventually leads to a one night stand...Here is what will happened when you get her number, try to contact her, to meet up with her again.

Here is most men think will happen: Inside of a man's head-:

"Yeah I'm so in...I just had sex with her...she must really like me.....and will want to see me again.....I will give her a call tomorrow and see if she wants to hook up with me again...I'm so sure she will want to see me again".

Here is the reality of what will happened and is based on what the woman is thinking at this point:

"Oh no..what have I done....I must have been a bit drunk on Saturday when I met that guy..Yeah he was hot and a great dancer, but that is so not me. I feel cheap and slutty right now. I didn't know anything about him. He didn't ask me anything about me. He moved in too quickly and although it felt good for the moment...I don't know anything about him.. I hope he doesn't call me and expect that I am easy. I'm sure he will call because he thinks I am and wants nothing more than a cheap booty call. Forget it. I am not going to answer his calls".

Now there are the rare few who want a cheap, superficial fast-food type of relationship however most sexually and emotionally mature women have respect for themselves and will not want a cheap fling.

So how could this guy have solidified a second date with this woman and even gotten her to want to form a long-term sexual and emotional connection with him?

He needed to build a genuine connection with her, a bond, show her that they are compatible, show her that he can have value to her in her life, outside of the club, take things slow, convey to her that he genuinely likes her beyond just her physicality and looks, convey that he enjoys her company, ask her questions about herself, about her interests, her likes and dislikes and only show interest when she said something that he found appealing.

For instance, he could have asked her what her favorite band is and then if she answered with Nine Inch Nails.. He could have said:

"Damn woman....you got awesome music taste....I think I could totally hang with you now"

See he is implanting in her mind that he likes her for legitimate reasons beyond just her looks.

Now as this guy is building this bond and connection with her---it is also providing the necessary "emotional and mental glue" to hold the two of them together. He is letting her know that he genuinely likes her, for reasons beyond her looks or physicality, wants to get to know her and wants to position himself in her future and not just in the "here and now". Also by taking things slow, she doesn't feel cheap and slutty, but respected and honored as every woman should. She really starts to get the impression that this guy is someone and will see herself hanging out with him and even forming a long-term sexual and emotional union with him as, not only did he sexually attract her, but made her feel a genuine bond and connection with him. Subsequently any number close you get or time bridge you set up to a second date with will SOLID!

So dudes, before you go out there and try  to play the player's deck, realize that the returns are low and the odds are against you. Let's play the Lady's man deck which requires a bit more effort but the returns are undoubtedly
the highest I've seen.

McMaax
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