***QUESTION*** 

Hi Kevin,

First of all, I'd just like to say that I've bought a few e-books on the subject of women, dating and creating attraction and yours is the first I've read that's told me from the first that I shouldn't feel like some sort of loser because I have difficulty in attracting or talking to women. So thank you.

So to my problem. There's a woman in my life whom I'm close to and I would like there to be more than friendship between us. She's a bit younger than me and we've known each other for a few years on and off.

Just over a year ago I told her that I was attracted to her and she told me that she had been attracted to me in the past but saw us as friends now.

Over the next couple of months, I didn't hear from her at all although I texted her and tried calling her a few times but gave up. Then a while later she got back in touch, said she missed me and could we meet to talk. So we met and re-established the friendship.

In the meantime, she'd started seeing a guy who treated her badly and eventually she dumped him. We still see each other regularly and sometimes the conversations get intense. She frequently touches me on the leg or arm during conversations and there's always a lot of eye contact.

She knows I'm still attracted to her but maintains that she doesn't want to go out with anyone just now. Spending time with her is great and intoxicating but I always feel a bit depressed for a while after she's gone.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

J., Scotland

>>>Kevin B 's Answer:  

The reason I included this question is because it's one of several "themes" guys write in about over and over and over again.

The theme is: "HOW TO BE SEEN AS MORE THAN JUST A FRIEND."

If you are like most guys, you probably have been seen as only a friend by at least 1 woman who you would have like to have seen you as much, much more than just a friend.

Me too, buddy, too many times to count.

When you first meet a woman, especially an attractive one, odds are you put on a "good face." You act polite and friendly. You listen to what she's saying.

You want to know why?

Because you mistakenly believe that this is the way to "get them" to like you, to be attracted to you.

So you don't do anything that might "rock the boat." You're on your best behavior.

And you get what you want. They like you.

Sure they like you, but your behavior triggers in them the reaction, "He's a nice guy," rather than "He's a guy I'm attracted to."

You see, the problem is, they only like you as a FRIEND.

I know most men have been taught that if we act like a "gentleman," and treat women with "respect," that will make them like us.

But in reality, nothing could be farther from the truth.

Because if you act like a friend, you'll be seen as a friend.

If you act like a potential date, you force the woman you're with to make a decision: Does she see you as a potential date, or not?

I NEVER, NEVER, NEVER interact with a woman who I'm attracted to without letting her know, directly or indirectly, that I see her as a woman, not just as some friend.

Often, even the VERY FIRST WORDS I tell a woman I've just met suggest I notice her as a woman, rather than as just some friend.

And because of this, it has been YEARS since I've found myself in a situation where I was "just friends" with a woman I was attracted to.

It simply doesn't happen anymore.

You must decide for yourself if you're looking for female friends, or if you're looking for something more.

And if you're looking for something more, STOP PRETENDING THAT YOU'RE NOT.

And be smart enough to know that the odds of a female friend becoming more than a friend if she's not initially interested in you is about 1 in a 100.

One mistake that all the guys who write in asking for advice on how to make a woman more than just a friend make is they don't establish themselves as a SEXUALLY AWARE MAN from the very BEGINNING.

Making this mistake does 2 things:

1)Once a woman see you as a "nice friend," it's very hard to ever be seen as something more.

2)The longer you wait to Cross The Line and let a woman know you're interested, the harder it is to do it.

So most guys drive themselves crazy trying to get up their courage to finally let a "female friend" know they're interested, and then when they finally do they find out that in her mind they have already been locked and sealed into the coffin of friendship.

Interestingly, the things you need to do to build attraction are often the OPPOSITE of the things to do if you just want to be friends.

And guess what?

They are also much more FUN than trying to listen to what women are saying, being nice and polite and appropriate, etc.

By the way, most of this "nice" behavior only serves to create in women the feeling of BOREDOM.

Boredom is the opposite of attraction.

Write that down on a piece of paper. Hell, get it tattooed. It's that important.

And if you're honest with yourself, I bet you'd admit that this behavior bores YOU as well.

So how do you stop boring not only the women you date, but yourself as well?

How do you start mastering the art of attraction?

How do you get out of the "Nice Guy Trap?"

Well, you're going to need to get a new type of education. And I haven't found a better education on this subject that the one you can get in my ebook, "Any Woman, Anywhere."

Not only will you learn how to stop having female friends, but you'll also learn how to meet new women and get numbers in less than 1 minute, what
to do on dates to build attraction, how to avoid the most common mistakes guys make when interacting with women, easy ways to take things physical, and much, much more.

And as the guy in the opening letter said, my book is one of the only books on the market that doesn't make you feel like a bit of a loser for not having the success with women you want.

You're not a loser. The truth is MOST guys don't have women figured out yet. You just need to educate yourself, and educate yourself with the best material available.