***QUESTION*** 

Hey Kevin,

I'm having great success! After reading the first part of your book, I got this girl whom I've liked for awhile to give me her number. The only problem
is that I keep getting mixed signals from her. Even though I got her number, I'm not sure if she wants to actually be my lady. How do I keep myself from falling into the friend category forever? And she has a boyfriend, so what do I do?

K.C, Washington, D.C

>>>Kevin B 's Answer:  

MY AWE-INSPIRING COMMENTARY:

First off, nice job following my tips and getting her number..

Secondly, SLOW WAY DOWN DUDE.

You go from getting her number to worrying about whether or not she wants to be your "lady."

Dude, the jump from getting a number to getting a girlfriend is just about as wide as the grand canyon.

And your not going to leap the whole thing with a single jump.

So slow WAY DOWN.

Stop worrying about whether or not she wants to be your lady, and focus instead of building attraction in her and having fun.

If you have fun and build attraction, she may (down the road) want to be your lady.

But I'll tell you what:

If you come across as a guy who is WORRYING about how she feels about you, this hurts your chances BIG TIME.

It gives HER the power. And it makes you come across as NEEDY, which is a big time attraction killer.

So take a deep breath, calm down, and focus on having fun when you're with her, and building attraction.