If there is something that you don't have to worry about dating or being a challenge as a novice Smart Dater, it's “being too much of a challenge” or “acting like a jerk”.

A lot of guys email me and say, “Marius…I am trying to act like a challenge but I don't want to risk acting like a jerk” or “I am afraid I will be too much of a challenge if I try this.”

You know what? For most of you, that is NOT going to happen.

See..this is what I call the “Arnold Syndrome”…

Have you ever heard a skinny guy talking about how he doesn't want to do sports or workout because he does not want to “look like Arnold”?

Every time I hear a skinny guy talk about how “disgusting” bodybuilding is, I just want to laugh. No
offence to the skinny guy…but even if he works out his hardest, the chances of him being as big as “Arnold” are very slim. He'll probably get a great-looking body in a few years, but he's NOT going to become Arnold overnight. (Unless he becomes a professional bodybuilder and puts a lot of dedication into the art!)

I think this “success sucks” attitude is just another perfect example of having chronic self-imposed limitations.

Just like the skinny guy does not have a valid reason to stay out of the gym, the beginning Smart Dater does not have an excuse to NOT be a challenge.

He should be EXPLORING and EXPANDING his boundaries, not setting up new ones before he even begins.

Here's the bottom line: to see any good results, you must stretch yourself BEYOND your normal boundaries.

A voice teacher has once told me that it's okay to elongate my vowels much more than I usually do and not worry about sounding silly…because chances are I will eventually drop back when become more relaxed or tired.

The same applies to dating and being a challenge.

You should aim for hitting 125%, because you're going to drop back to 100% naturally overtime. But if you start at 80%, then you're going to drop back to 50% - meaning you're not going to make much progress at all.

For this week's assignment, I want you to go just a bit overboard with your flirting and teasing. Go beyond your usual boundaries…and see if you get any different results!

You could be well-surprised!