(Disclaimer: This Post is not to discredit inner game, “Inner Game Bullshit” has nothing to do with inner game being bullshit but describes a problem in the community where guys will use inner game as an excuse or preach it when it is not even true to themselves)

So I am currently sitting in a library, the keyboard does not match the computer, it bothers me. I’m thinking about things because I am bored, I also have to go to the bathroom but I am afraid that if I get up, someone will take this computer, like the old lady that is giving me the death stare because this keyboard is making loud clanky noises.

But I am not here to talk about that, however I am feeling philosophical and it has been a while since I have made a thread so here you guys go. This is my views on inner game, this is what works for me, and this is what works for thousands of other guys that are successful. In fact, I believe it is this difference alone that separates the Men from the Keyboard Jockeys.

Some people may disagree; some people may even get offended. If you do get offended, I feel you should really pay attention to this post, because this goes out to you guys.

So first off let me define the phenomenon that I define as Inner Game Bullshit.

Do I think all inner game is bullshit?

NO! Not at all, and Inner Game Bullshit has nothing to do with inner game itself, it is more of the way that inner game is learned.

You see inner game is a new trend in the pick up community. More and more products are coming out that supposedly help your inner game. Also lots of attention has been turned to various books for inner game. However, this is not going to solve the issues you have. Sure they are great tools but the problem is that they are not applied; only read, and that is the start of what I call “Inner Game Bullshit.”

So how does Inner Game Bullshit start?

Inner Game Bullshit usually spawns from a sticking point. Someone goes out to give sarging a try, but oh no, they come to a block in the road. This problem may happen once or twice. Then, instead of seeking the answer to the sticking point they go and blame something that they can’t really be at fault for. It is a lot easier to blame a flaw in a mindset than it is to blame a flaw in your outer game because having the “wrong” mindset is common in the community. Instead of being like “I suck at qualification” it is actually easier to say “I suck at staying in state and feeling confident.” Which in actuality, and ironically, it is more like saying “I suck at life.”

Makes you want to go back and focus on your flaws in qualification than the excuse flaws in yourself now doesn’t it?

However this is exactly what some inner game guys in the community want you to think. (I respect all of them, they have amazing game, but there is a reason for it that I will get into later) Anyway, by creating the idea that there is this big inner flaw in your self, it makes you want to seek more improvement. People think that this improvement cannot be made in the FIELD but instead through the pages of books…however aren’t they reading the book to get better in the field? See how easy it is to loose site of things.

Anyway back to my original point, so once someone comes to a sticking point. Some make the mistake of blaming their inner self. So they go and they start reading things on inner game. They will go read something like “Secrets of the Alpha Male” or “The Super Duper Man God” and then all of a sudden…they have this HUGE boost in confidence. They are like wow, I am awesome. But this confidence is short lived if no action is taken, and that is the biggest mistake, the Inner Game things are rarely applied by the reader. So their confidence dies back down and they miss it. So they read more things on inner game.

They become hooked to the confidence and insight one gets from reading a post about the theory of human nature.

Inner Game starts to become a drug.

Now all of a sudden, they start thinking they know all the answers to life, they can link ANY problem in the community to an inner game flaw. So they start posting, and they post some more, they read some more, then post some more. Then they sit and think about space time continuums or whatever, and then they post some more.

But what do they do that night…. They masturbate!

Why?

Because when it comes to approaching or when things come back to their original sticking point, they are still shitting a brick and don’t know what to do. Actually that is not entirely true, they know the theory behind what they are supposed to do but clueless when comes to taking action. However, they refuse to blame their inner or outer self and thus the problem is never solved.

So they post some more, “helping” guys with there rampages about why inner game is the only way to solve your problems. People eat this up. They get validation from their posts. Everything they say is theory and their thoughts are clouded by the words of many other men. Nothing is their own thoughts and they have not applied and tested any of it, thus everything they say is…INNER GAME BULLSHIT.

Then bam, a keyboard jockey is born.

Here is how I see it:

The cold hard truth is you can read all the things you want about being a better man and the attitude one possesses, but in no way is that going to help you find “yourself”. Why? Because they are not your inner discoveries!

Think about the term “inner game” for a second, the inner applies directly to you, “your inner self”. Now some guy telling you about the attitude he finds attractive has noting to do with your inner self, you are absorbing his inner self while being under the impression that you are improving yourself.

If anything, and as ironic as it is, you are loosing your identity when getting too involved with inner game.

When you read a book about human dynamics and the mind, you are agreeing with what that person says and assuming that it’s true because you now know “the secret of life” or whatever other discoveries you may find. To truly develop inner game, go out in a social environment and CHALLENGE the theory you just read about, see if it’s flawed or right because all the inner game theories (or at least the good ones) are developed through outer game. They are made in the real world.

These inner game guys go out, do something over and over again, their personality changes as it adapts to the new situations and then they write about it. Developing inner game by reading a book or watching a DVD is not going to happen. You are just going to tell yourself it helps cause you just wasted hours that could be spent in the field, listening to someone talk about things that truly only applies to them will in no way directly improve your inner game. Unless of course you take action in doing so which I will go into momentarily.

The human body is made to adapt to situations, if you put yourself in social situations time and time again, you are going to notice changes, your going to change to avoid the feeling of rejection and failure. Just because a book said rejection is just an emotion to protect us doesn’t mean it wont suck when it happens. And until you get used to it and know how to deal with it, it will still continue to suck…every time!

Inner game is about developing your inner self. To become the person you want to be you need to find these discoveries on your own. And the only way to find them is to go out in the field and adapt to the social changes that are necessary to make the changes a part of you. Friends aren’t made between the pages of books, they are made between the words we say and how we act in social situations.

So once again, people continue to use inner game as an excuse for their shortcomings in real life. “oh she wasn’t into me cause I don’t have any inner game” If you keep going at it again and again, your going to make an inner discovery and its going to be far greater and more rewarding than anything some dude with a PHD told you.