Online Dating SCAMS
Before you even think about online dating, you must know about dating scams.
This is serious: if you get too deeply involved, a dating scam can
significantly hurt not only your heart, but your finances, too.
Make sure you know how to protect yourself from fraud when using dating sites!
Internet personals, online introduction agencies and matchmaking sites
allow anyone to join for free, and they usually do not screen their
members. It means you never know who is behind this pretty photo: a
real beautiful woman or a con artist who downloaded a photo of an
unknown model from the Internet.
There are four types of online dating scams:
1. Prostitute scam;
2. Phone scam;
3. Travel scam;
4. Nigerian postal scam.
Let me tell you more about these scams.
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1. Prostitute scam
Prostitutes are straightforward: they place profiles on dating sites to
solicit business. Such profiles are usually easily recognized by sleazy
user names and steamy self-descriptions. They don't waste time letting
you know what they are after.
2. Phone scam
This is the variation of the old phone scam: the person asks you to
call them, and when you do, you get a bill in the mail for hundreds of
dollars (1900 number).
3. Travel scam
The person resides overseas and asks you to help them with travel expenses to visit you.
4. Nigerian postal scam
The person pretends to be a relative of a diseased government official
who asks for your help in a financial transaction.
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So, how can you protect yourself from being taken by Internet con
artists using online personals to reach their victims?
Here is the simple guidance that will make your use of online dating sites safe and secure.
First, when you view a profile, look out for the things like a sleazy
user name, especially if it's a woman: guys cannot stop thinking about
sex 24/7 (and it's normal) - but women normally don't do it. Sincere
women don't choose user names like "the_sweetest_sin", "ms_right_now"
etc.
Second, read what the profile says: people milking others for money
will say something vague that can fit anyone.
Third, look at the photos: gorgeous professional photos in combination
with vague profile almost always mean trouble. People with beautiful
photos receive LOTS of mail, so they become VERY selective and include
many requirements in their profiles (especially women).
Basically, any woman who talks about loving sex and experimenting in bed is most likely not for real.
Any man who talks about being a millionaire isn't for real either.
It doesn't mean there are no women who love sex and experimenting in
bed or millionaires on the site - they just DO NOT talk about that in
their profiles.
And any person who does, is a liar.
Simple.
Another HUGE warning is overseas profiles. Often people would list
their location as being local and when you start talking to them, they
reveal they are from overseas (Niger.ia, Russia, etc).
Such profiles should be treated as potential scams - always.
If the location in the personal profile doesn't match what the person
says about him/herself, my advice is to drop it altogether and don't
waste your time.
If you decide to proceed, do it for entertainment purposes only and don't get emotionally attached.
What will happen, sooner or later you will get a money request in some
form - they need money for a sick relative, they want to visit you and
need money for tickets, etc - whatever the reason, there WILL be a
money request.
When this happens, you can play along and have some fun, asking for
instructions and promising to send them money - just don't actually
SEND it.
If you do, there are two variants: they will disappear or ask for MORE
money (hey, if you were so stupid to send it once, why not try again!)
- and keep asking for more money until you stop sending it.
Don't even HOPE this is for real.
Because it's NOT.
You may want to believe it is, but better believe ME: I am a real
person and you can ring me and have a chat with me. With those people,
you can't.
So, who would you choose to believe: me, who tells you this is a scam -
or them, who ask you for money (which you can NEVER recover)?
I work in online dating since 1999 - I KNOW.
Trust me on that.
Long distance + request for money = SCAM.
Forget any sweet stories you've heard in between - and any sweet
pictures, too. Most likely, the pics are downloaded from the Net and
belong to some model. (Hey, there were even scammers using MY OWN
pictures! ;-))
Guys are more vulnerable to this one than girls: I have never heard
about a woman who wired thousands of $$$ to some guy to come and visit
her - but the Internet is PLASTERED with stories of men sending money
to their non-existing female admirers.
How wonderful... this perfect female specimen cannot wait to get hold
of your zip and provide you with the greatest pleasure you ever
experienced!! OF COURSE she sincerely loves you and is different from
any woman you met before (and probably a couple of generations younger
than you as well).
C' mon mate: those perfect Playboy-type exemplars dying to try your new
sheets exist only in the virtual reality of your correspondence.
They are as real as Santa Claus or Niger.ian millions. You know this
one: you get a mail from a relative of a deceased top government
official who begs your assistance in transferring large sums of money
(stolen from the country's people obviously) - and easily promising to
give you a few millions if you simply allow them to use your bank
account. The people may list themselves as being from Nigeria, or any
other African country.
This one is as clear as daylight, so if anyone starts talking about
money transfers, honesty and trust, simply BLOCK them.
Remember the formula:
Long distance + request for money = SCAM.
I hope this article will help you protect yourself from dating scams
and you will only meet honest, sincere and genuine singles from now on.
Happy hunting! :-))