It's pretty rare that a girl who liked you enough to isolate herself with you will not have sex.
Still,
sometimes a woman will put up some final resistance at the last moment
when she realizes that if she doesn't stop herself immediately, sex
will be inevitable.
Most of the time, if the
girl is putting up token verbal resistance like "This is moving too
fast," simply ignoring her and carrying forward or simply talking sexy
with her in agreement will put to rest her objections. Her voice may
say one thing, but her body says another and she proceeds to have sex
with you.
Other times, you have to take a
step back before you can take a step forward, giving her another round
of foreplay before getting into her pants. If a girl gets horny enough,
she will override all that programming telling her to stop.
Still, sometimes these basic tactics don't work to get a girl
comfortable enough to have sex with you. In that case, you need to
bring out the big guns.
Tactic 1: Get Her Hornier
One
way of getting a woman horny enough to want sex is to VARY your
foreplay until you hit upon what she likes most and what really turns
her on.
Straight up tongue-to-tongue
smooching and stroking a woman's breasts might not get your particular
woman horny enough. Different women like different strokes.
Some
women get most turned on when you dry rub their vagina through their
jeans. Other women love having the inside of their thighs stroked.
Other
women have particular hot spots that when touched and kissed really
drive them crazy. their neck, collar bone, small of their back, or even
their wrists and inside of their forearms.
Some women go wild from dry humping.
Others like soft bites.
Other women get turned on by dirty talk.
Other women have a fantasy to be dominated, taken, and sexually ravished, surrendering themselves to a man's power.
If
she's resisting, explode into a fervor of sexual passion, push her up
against the wall, against the bed, tear off her clothes, and ravish
her. If played right, the passion will be too overwhelming for her to
want to stop. (Check out Blissnosis for more tips)
The
point is to experiment. If the dry humping isn't working, take a step
back and try stroking her thighs or other parts of her body. Most
likely, you'll hit her "magic spot" soon or later which will melt away
her resistance.
Tactic 2: Preemptively Allay her Fears
Sometimes,
despite all of your efforts to turn a woman on, when it comes down to
the moment of sex, a woman still shuts herself down mentally.
Don't take it personally.
Most likely the woman has legitimate concerns that worry her, preventing her from sleeping with you - even if she otherwise wants to.
Some
women are extremely worried about the word getting out to their friends
or family that they had sex and being labeled a "slut".
Other
women are worried about catching a disease or getting pregnant. but
they don't want to ask you to wear a condom for fear of being a "slut".
Or they don't even think to ask.
Or they
really like you and they're afraid that after sleeping with you, you'll
disappear from their lives. They fear that by sleeping with you,
they'll lose their power over you and they don't want to give up that
leverage.
Or the girl might be a virgin - and is simply scared of the whole unknown experience in general.
Although
you can't know specifically what her particular fear is, you can
preemptively address and ally her possible fears with some
heart-to-heart talk.
Simply hold her in your
arms and tell her that you always wear a condom when making love to a
woman so that she trusts she won't catch an STD or get pregnant.
Tell
her that you look forward to waking up with her tomorrow and that you
don't want her to look back on the experience with any regrets -
implying that you won't think of her as a slut for sleeping with you
and that you won't ditch her the very next day.
Again, you're doing some "mind reading" here in the hopes of addressing her particular fears.
But
guess what - it works. A little understanding and addressing a woman's
fears is often enough to make her comfortable enough to continue.
Tactic 3: Pulling out all the stops - The FREEZE OUT
If
everything else fails and she's still saying no to you, you need to
bring out the big guns to silence that little voice inside her head
telling her to stop.
It's time to do the FREEZE OUT.
The
freeze out is a tactic that women do all the time to men to get what
they want from them. It's the ultimate tool women use to pussy-whip
men.
The man does something the woman
disapproves of. In response she emotionally withdraws. She turns her
back on him. She doesn't talk to him except in terse sentences. He
feels emotional abandonment and separation anxiety kicks in. She
freezes him out so that he feels like crap, until he responds and begs
to get back into her good graces.
Here's how to do a freeze out to a girl whose on your bed and uncooperative.
Stop
everything you were doing. Stop talking and lie down on the bed.
Stare at the ceiling. Lose your state. Let all of your playfulness
and sexual aggressiveness wash out of you into the bed.
Get up. Avoid eye contact.
Go to the next room. Start reading a magazine. Start watching television. Go to the bathroom and take a leak.
Contrast
suddenly and abruptly your sexual, playful, aggressive, fun nature to
that of one that's ice cold - so that she can FEEL the difference in
mood from day to night at the pit of her stomach like a cold bucket of
ice water splashed in her face.
At the same time, it's important not to get mad or become
argumentative - that only reveals desperation for sex which is a turn
off. Just remain coldly neutral or bored.
Girls
are hyper-sensitive to freeze outs, to your total and sudden emotional
withdraw. Right away, she'll be thinking and FEELING, "Why is he so
cold with me? What can I do to stop this?"
Don't
let her affect your state. If you have to talk to her, talk in a
monotone voice like you're bored and give her short answers like "okay"
and "uh-huh". And don't respond physically when she touches you. Be
emotionally and physically stiff.
That means no smiling, no touching, and no interest.
You
might feel guilty or uncomfortable for making her feel bad. But be
strong. It's a battle of wills. If you hang in there, she'll eventually
break.
In fact, VERY QUICKLY she will ask you
what's wrong. Let her know that she has let you down. Tell her, "I
don't want to get myself all hot for nothing especially since I can't
even turn you on. I would rather just watch television and enjoy my
evening." Then continue freezing her out.
The last thing a woman ever wants to feel is emotionally shut out
cold and that she's let down a man sexually and making him feel down
about it.
When she starts kissing you and reinitiates foreplay again, start ravishing her again.
Flip fast from cold to HOT, HOT, HOT
to emphasize the contrast between cold and hot states. Don't bother
bringing her back to the bedroom, just ravish her right there.
Strong,
positive feedback for her good behavior trains her to behave in the way
you want her to. Immediately go back into a sexual state, pretend the
interruption never happened, and give her some great sex.
Facing resistance in getting a girl's pants off... most men wish they could have such problems!
So now that you know how to wipe out a woman's final resistance to sex, you just need to learn how to get quality women into your bed in the first place .
Make
today the day you change your life forever. Take that first step that
will put you on the course to having women in your bed. Take that first
step where you have women giving you final resistance... and experience
the satisfaction of overcoming it.