One of the most common scenarios you will see going on at a bar or club, is a man walking up to a woman, introducing himself and a short time later offering to buy her a drink. When attempting to attract women this common scenario is perhaps the worst one that any man can choose to put himself into.

Now, I am imagine that every guy who has been to a bar or club often enough has either had success or seen someone else have success with this scenario.

Yet, the problem isn't that you can not succeed if you use it, but, that if you do succeed using it then you didn't even need it in the first place and it kills any chance that you had with women who you could have created attraction in.

As you may or may not know already, before you even approach a woman she has already decided if she doesn't like you, is interested in you, or is indifferent to you. Now if she doesn't like you there isn't much you can do about you are just a dead man walking. However, if she is interested or indifferent then you still have got a fighting chance.

Lets pretend she is interested; you introduce yourself and offer to buy her a drink and haven't said or done anything to cause her to dislike you yet. She agrees and in her mind she is thinking okay I like this guy and he likes me as well. Yet, even if you hadn't offered to buy her a drink she would still be having the same conversation in her head except instead of knowing you like her she would begin to wonder if you like her which would cause her to be even more attracted to you.

Now, let's pretend she is indifferent; you introduce yourself and offer to buy her a drink without doing or saying anything to create attraction or interest in her. She might agree to the drink, but, congratulations you have created a sense of disinterest in her for you, in her mind she thinks I know that this guy is attracted to me even though I don't like him at all and to top it off he is going to try and bribe his way into me liking him by offering to buy me a drink what a loser.

What if instead you simply had continue your conversation with her, now in her mind she is thinking, I wonder what is up with this guy does he like me or not. In fact she may become just curious enough where she allows you to create an attraction because obviously you are different from all the other guys who come up and simply offer to buy her a drink and that's it.

So as you can see there really is no reason to buy a girl a drink if she likes you a drink isn't going to change that fact, if she doesn't like you a drink isn't going to change that fact, and if she is indifferent a drink can only cause her to dislike you because now you are just some guy trying to pick her up.

Now use that money you are going to save on drinks to improve your self so that you are the type of man that can easily attract all the women that are interested and indifferent to you.