When you go out on the town looking for women, there are a few
things that you should definitely think about. Here are some basic tips
for flirtation and seduction, particularly geared to the needs of men.
Keep yourself neat and clean.
It
seems like your mother went over this a time or two, but the simple
fact is, many guys just don't remember their basic grooming habits when
going out to meet women. Stay clean and groomed, and make sure that
your breath smells good - particularly because you may find yourself
speaking very close to a girl in a noisy club.
Stay confident and positive.
It's easy to say that you should just be confident, but there's another
element to personality as well. Women like confidence, but they also
enjoy being around someone who smiles, is happy, and has a sense of
humor. Don't take all the advice to "be confident" at face value.
Confidence without a little good nature to temper it will have women
thinking you're cocky.
Don't try to get girls drunk.
Alcohol makes women more receptive to suggestion, but it also switches
on a certain "automatic rejection" circuit in many women. This is
simply the internal knowledge that she is too drunk to make good
decisions, and will reject you out of a sense of personal preservation.
And if a girl who is too drunk is there with friends, the friends will
almost certainly run interference and take her home before you can take
advantage of the inebriated state. With all this in mind, a drink or
two is fine, but trying to get a girl drunk is really counter
productive.
Pick one girl per group.
If
there is a group of girls, you're going to have to pick one, not sample
all of them. The fact is, no one wants to feel like they're being
flirted with just because their friend rejected you. It just won't
yield any positive response at all. Don't try to "make the rounds" of a
group of girls, as it will really just be a waste of your time. Pick
one in the group, but not necessarily the most attractive - you may
find you have far better luck with one of the lesser girls.
Be generous but honest with your compliments.
If you're laying down pickup lines, girls will know. If they are
regulars to the club, they've surely heard them all before. It's
embarrassing for you to use cheesy lines and boring for them. A good
example of this is a trap that girls often SET for the unsuspecting
Casanova. Here it is: you tell her what beautiful eyes she has. She
immediately closes them and asks you what color they are. If you were
just blowing hot air, you won't know, and then you're busted. Time to
move on. It's best to give genuine compliments based on things you
actually find attractive about the person.
Be yourself. Simple.
It's
really difficult to keep up an act, and usually a girl will be able to
tell. If you just act like yourself, the girl will trust you more and
you will find maintaining conversation (and flirtation) a whole lot
easier.