By David DeAngelo (Q&A Session)

***QUESTION*** 

Hey Dave,  I have been reading your emails and have purchased your  ebook and have read and studied from both.  I would 'study'  areas I felt I was weak in or would that be wussy in, to  improve, naturally, but would read everything for as much  knowledge as I could absorb.  Well, I have a success story  but with a slight twist to it.  The twist is my success was  due to playing off of 2 other guys' failures.  

I went to a club in a part of town I normally do not go to.   Not that it is a bad part of town I just never thought of  going there.  I went by myself, so on my own, no one for  moral support, in a place I have never been before.  Talk  about giving your ideas the acid test, this was going to be  it.  I was looking down at the dance floor getting into the  music and noticed behind me two girls sitting at a table. I  then noticed 2 guys approach and one started to talk to one  of the girls.  The other guy was just standing there looking  at girl #2 trying to get up the nerve to say something, from  what I could tell, since I was that way myself in a not so  distant past.  I just turned away and didn't pay much  attention but after 10 min's or so the same guy talking to  girl #1 is not making any headway. Guy 2 still had his wuss  game going so no change there.  I decided to ask girl # 2 to  dance but wanted to get her attention and interest, as well.  So I leaned over and said, "While that guy is trying to  hustle your friend, whom, I might he is not doing very well,  would you like to dance?"  Well, this girl just cracked up  laughing, she did not want to dance but did want to talk  more.  She went on to say that there is nothing he could say  or do at this point to make her want to dance or go out with  him.  He just doesn't get it, she said.  I went on to say I  know it is crowded and a bit loud here but one should  understand NO easy enough.  She agreed and went on to  mention how much of a loser his friend is just standing  there.  I then remembered a statement someone used in an  email of yours and thought I would use it myself.  I said to  girl #2 "what's that smell, do you smell that?" She replies,  "What smell?"  I said, "The smell of desperation."  Well,  Dave, that girl laughed so hard she fell out of her chair. I  helped her up and when she told me she had to tell her girl  friend that and when she leaned over to talk to her I just  turned away and went back to looking at the people dancing.  

After a bit this girl came up to me and said look at those  losers they are just standing on the dance floor while  people are dancing around them. They did look pretty  pathetic. We talked a bit and I asked her name but I did not  quite understand it since she was Latin and had a Latin name  I could not make out what she said, what with all the loud  music and noise. Just then some friends of hers and her girl  friend's came in and she started to talk to them so again I  just turned away and watched people on the dance floor.   After a bit she came back and grabbed my arm and said come  on I want to introduce you to my friends. After she  introduces everyone to me I turn to her and ask what was  your name again? Is it ludicrous?  She just busted up  laughing again and tried to tell me her name again.  By now,  she is holding my hand and we started dancing right there.   We talked a bit and I told her she has to write her name  down so I can pronounce correctly when I call her.  She  say's, "Call me?"  I said, "Yes, since you are writing your  name down you might as well give me your number.  How else  am I going to call you?  Oh, and if you have email you might  as well give me that also."  

She said, that it was cool meeting me and gave me a hug and  kiss.  She then went back to her friends and I just turned  away and called it a night.  

It may not have been nice to use the 2 guys wuss behavior to  my advantage but it worked.  

N from Miami Beach   

>>>David D's Answer:  

LO L... so you went off secretly to a bar al one... hoping that no one would see you testing the materials out for your self... lol.  

Yea, sometimes it's rough when other guys act like Wussy Jackasses.. 

But hey, it makes your life easier and more fun!  

So what the hell, right?  

I have to say, one of my personal favorite things to do with women I've just met is make fun of how other guys are acting.  

It's particularly fun in these bar-type situations, where you can watch one interaction after another.  

Most guys suck at approaching women, and it makes for great humor and conversation.  

Of course, talking about how terrible other guys are INSTANTLY separates you from the herd, and kind of puts you in the "NON-WUSS" category all by itself.  

Another personal favorite of mine is to tell a girl that she should get together with one of the guys that is acting like a jackass.  

"I think you and that Wuss-Boy over there would make a cute couple. He looks like he needs a mom like you to tell him what to do.." etc.  

You've done a great job here, now keep it up.  

And thanks for the great example.  Always remember in these situations that a big scoop of COCKY & FUNNY will make things go well.