Have you heard of the term “romantic intelligence”?

Of course not! It's a term I just invented this afternoon!

It's a phrase I have come up with to define a person's dating skills. A man with a high “romantic intelligence” will do better with women than a man with a low “romantic intelligence”.

For example, a nerd who has never talked to a woman besides his mother will have a very low romantic intelligence score, while a player who has been scoring women since he was 13 will have a very high romantic intelligence.

Just like any kind of intelligence, romantic intelligence needs to be nourished. The nourishment process is very linear. The sooner you pick up your dating skills, the sooner you'll become successful with dating and women.

In the above-mentioned scenarios, the player has an obvious advantage over the nerd. Not because the player is better than the nerd genetically, but because he has been practicing his skills since he was a very young boy.

When the nerd was still playing video games in high school, the player was already talking to girls in the hallway and taking them out for ice-cream after school.

When the nerd was spending all his time on getting the best sword on an online game from the safety of his dorm room in college, the player was experimenting on how to get girls drunk.

Fast forward to today. The nerd is now 25 years old and he FINALLY wants to get a girlfriend. So he starts hitting the clubs and becomes extremely frustrated when women don't even notice him. As for the player, he is actually an ex-player now. After playing women for 7 years, he has finally decided to get involved in a long-term relationship. He's engaged to be married to a woman he loves.

From 15 to 25, The player has over 10 more years of experience than the nerd. So is it really a big surprise that the nerd is not as good as the player when it comes to getting girls?

In my experience as a dating coach, a man usually has to go through 3 stages:

1) The Discovery Stage

2) The Experimentation Stage

3) The Serious Stage

Trouble will occur if you try to skip to the next stage before you're ready. For example, if you have never
dated before, it's a bad idea to marry the first girl who shows interest in you. You may not agree with me because you're madly in love and you think your first girlfriend is “the one” you want, but reality shows that your first love or high school sweetheart is often NOT the woman you'll stay with for life.

Trouble will also occur if you get stuck at a certain stage without ever moving on. For example, a LOT of nerds in their 20's and 30's fall for the “seduction” type of programs out there. They seriously buy into the mottos of the pickup guru's such as “never date a woman unless you have slept with her”, “always have more than one girlfriend”, and “never like a woman enough to be exclusive with her.”

In my opinion, these guys are just trying to live out experiences they never experienced back in high school or college.

This is okay - as long as you keep it under control and DO eventually move on. Feel free to date casually for awhile or maybe have a few casual one-night stands if you want - but if you want to remain in the “game” for more than a couple of years, then you've gotta look at your life seriously. Chances are, you're trying to pick up women in order to mend certain holes in your self-image. (I will
probably get flamed by a lot of “pickup-artists” for saying this. But hey…I am here to spread the truth!)

Here's the bottom line…

As a Smart Dater, if you've started late, then you should accelerate your learning curve and “catch up”. Instead of spending a few years to figure out the game, you should do it a.s.a.p. because you're already behind.

Now…I want you to be honest with yourself. What stage are YOU at?

If you feel you still have quite a bit to catch-up, then you should sign up for my newsletter and learn more about how you can change your love life.