Note: This concept is not for beginners. It requires confidence, dominance, and a firm SET of balls.
The three most common things I achieve from this technique are:
1) Super-Fast Make-outs
2) Immediate Isolations (And pulls)
3) Directly stealing girls from guys on the dance floor.
How often do you find yourself at a club, and the hottest girls are always grinding up against some big guy?
It seems like these girls are impossible to approach let alone get time to talk to them.
Truth is… it could not be easier.
And here is how:
First thing you need to understand is what goes on while a girl is grinding with another guy.
As a girl grinds with a guy, her sexual state
is skyrocketing and she is experiencing emotions that are very similar
to sex. This is exhilarating for the girl and is the reason sometimes
if you just walk by a girl on the dance floor, you become subject to
her grinding up against you.
This sexual state, combined with all the
external stimuli and emotions make up what I consider to be “Buying
Temperature” in a women.
As she is grinding with some random guy (or
girl) her BUYING TEMPERATURE is sky-rocketing but it is simply being
attributed to the environment. It is not being linked to the person she
is grinding with, it is just one big mess of good emotions floating in
the girl.
This is good news for you!
The buying temperature that she is building can be stolen and directly applied to you.
However, there is a particular mindset that needs to be in place before you start doing this.
I call it “The Bandit’s Mindset”
To be a Buying Temperature Bandit you need to be a master of your element. A “BT Bandit” has a particularly powerful and direct thought process.
It goes as follows:
1) The girl you see is the girl you get.
When you see a girl you
want there is no thinking. There is no waiting. You have to approach
that girl. But you are not going for the approach. You are going for
the kill. That is the girl you are taking home. No excuses.
2) Every set is a single set.
You and her are the only
people that exist in the interaction. To be a true bandit you know no
obstacles. It does not matter how badass the guy she is grinding with
is. He is simply an object that is pumping her buying temp to deliver
it to you. She has no emotional attachment to the guy she is grinding
with, why the fuck should you. He is non existent. Do not make eye
contact, do not acknowledge his existence.
3) There is only one FRAME.
And it is the
“Us-Frame”. You and the girl are immediately working as a team the
second you talk to her. No time to be combative. She wants you to steal
her away and she is going to help you do it. If your vocabulary does
not include the words “Us, we, lets, and together” when talking to
girls…make the shift immediately.
4) Everything is a window of opportunity.
No time to wait for a
chance to escalate. You must create your own windows. If she is in the
same building as you, she might as well be there to meet you. A bandit
never lets a passing smile or even eye contact from a girl go without
an approach.
5) Create your own compliance
Everything she does is
helping the interaction. Everything she does frames the interaction in
your favor. A bandit rewards her actions with touch and attention to
make the favorable action happen again and again.
These are more than “hokey inner game”
mindsets. I will show you how each of these come into play when
carrying out the actions of a BT Bandit.
But first let me walk you through the actions of a Buying Temperature Bandit.
This is what you actually do to steal the girl.
- Walk right up to girl
- Full eye contact, bandit mindsets in place, strong high energy state
- Grab on shoulder or wrap arm around her waist.
- Pull her in towards you so she breaks contact
with the person she is grinding with. (The buying temperature is now
applied to you) Everyone else in the set is non-existent.
- Us Frame with compliance
- This is when you open. I immediately make frame it like she is the one picking me up.
i. Ex. “I hope you are happy, you made me come all the way over here! Now we can talk” (Compliance + Us Frame)
- Re-spike her buying temperature if necessary
- Buying temperature makes girls putty in your
hands. It easier to spike when it is already high. This is when you can
spin her, high five her, and keep the heavy KINO going. Escalation
should be high.
- Pick your close
- If you have kept her buying temperature high you
can go for the instant make-out. I will often “Us Frame” a little more
by saying how awesome we are. This creates an even deeper reality that
only exists between us and makes her forget about any surrounding
people. If I know I can get the make-out for sure I will just pull her
to an isolation spot. Continue escalating, make sure she does not break
her sexual state, and set up logistics of an in-venue lay.
This whole technique also works if you see a
guy gaming a girl and she is really into him. If you open with the
bandit mindset in place, everyone else will be stuck in spectator mode.
Even the guy with game will sit on the sideline as he watches all the
work he just did become applied to you
Now time to put it all together:
Here is a recent rundown of me stealing the
buying temperature of a girl, and taking the girl away from the guy and
off the dance floor and going for the pull.

Heartwork: I spot girl I
want. She is grinding with a guy. She is looking around the dance
floor, I can tell this is just a random dance encounter and she is mine
for the taking. She looks in my direction, I don’t even know if she
looked at me, but now she sees me coming. (Mindset 1, 4, and 5). I walk up to her, keeping strong eye contact with her and get right in her space.
Heartwork: I grab her by the
back of the waist and pull her into my wait. All her buying temp is
thrown on me. She puts her arm around my back. I say “You are super cute! But together, we are even cuter. (Mindset 2 and 3).
Girl: giggling Yeah! We are pretty awesome! She is already sucked into the Us Frame.
Heartwork: You know it! High
five to spike her buying temp, I don’t let go of her hand. I pull her
hips closer into mine and get her facing me. This rewards her for being
in my frame and picturing us together (Mindset 4 and 5). I
got for the instant make-out, she jumps right in, all her buying temp
is stolen and attributed to me. I then decide to pull her off the dance
floor by saying “This song is awesome! Woo! (Spike more BT) Let’s go over here!” I pull her off the dance floor.
The line “This song is awesome! Woo! Let’s go over here” works because it is a logical cluster fuck.
If she likes the song and wants to dance to it
and also realizes that I like it. She is not going to go into the “I
still want to dance” objection mode.
Also just by yelling “Woo!” (Or some other
nonsensical thing to show excitement) it takes the two of you out of a
logical frame (Does not matter who does the “woo”, you are sharing the
same frame). This makes her subjective to you moving her for whatever
reason.
Pull her to a booth, get her on your lap, and continue escalation.
I will leave the logistics in your hands.
Be the best bandit that you can be.
Love,
Heartwork