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Chris
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My name's Chris and I write everything on this site. I'm also the person behind http://www.succeedsocially.com, a free collection of articles on basic social skills, getting along with people, and getting your act together.
I'm a 26-year old guy who lives in Canada. I'd consider myself contentedly average when it comes to women. I'm currently in a two-year relationship. Before that I dated a little and had a few hook-ups. Nothing worth writing home about - any halfway cool guy has done the same things if he's been so inclined - but it's a far cry from where I started.
I didn't lose my virginity, or even kiss a girl until I was in my 20's. And even after that it still took me a lot of time to get over many of my issues. Looking back, I think my biggest problem was that I was extremely anxious around the opposite sex. But I was also a very dorky, socially awkward guy who spent much more time playing video games than hanging around with other people.
Like lots of guys, for a while I thought my salvation lay in learning a bunch of tricks and techniques to pick up girls. That did help me somewhat, but I started making the most progress when I got to work on improving my underdeveloped people skills and becoming a more genuinely attractive, sociable person. Things started to click into place after that. It was a slow process to make up for my years of interpersonal inexperience, and to get over my various insecurities and hang ups, but I gradually started to become more of the kind of person I wanted to be and have the kind of success I was looking for.
I'm not saying for a second I'm some kind of expert on the opposite sex, but I do think I've learned some things about going from Below Average to Average in that department that can help other guys that are in the same position I was once in.
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People Skills And Basic Attractiveness - A Foundation To Doing Well With Women
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An analogy would be a guy who isn't very good at soccer (i.e.,
football) and wants to do better at it. So he reads a bunch of books
full of advanced tactics, strategies, and tricky moves. These teachings
help him in little bursts here and there, but overall he's still
struggling. He feels frustrated and consults further resources,
learning even more high-end techniques. Still, his progress is
discouragingly slow. For some reason he isn't aware of it, but his real
problem is that he's in horrible shape and generally uncoordinated. The
fact that he knows lots of advanced stuff doesn't matter because he
can't even run for two minutes without slowing down, and whenever he
tries to execute a technique he tends to mess it up.
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A Long List Of Ways The Seduction Community Can Make You Weird
WARNING: While we
at Venusian Skills thought this article to be highly relevant, and it's being posted it in its entirety, we believe that the community has more good to
offer when compared to some undesireable side effects resulted in the wrong application of
methods. With practicaly no other realistic alternative to understanding real world social dynamics and relationships available in the world today, the important thing to remember is that the values and understandings
the community has brought to guys all over the world is of paramount value and
it HAS positively changed and continue to change the lives of an incredible number
of men.
Read the following article with an open mind and DO NOT be disencouraged if you
found some of the pitfalls presented here in yourself during the course of your
self-improvement journey. These skills do not develop overnight, and your
perseverance and open mindedness is what really makes a difference. Be willing
to learn from multiple sources, and discard sources that were good for you in
your early development stages but that may now be obsolete. Your self-improvement journey
in all aspects of your life should continue until the day you die, so don't let
revelations such as this article disencourage you or get in your way.
You've been warned!
-Venusian Skills Editor
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How to get a Social Life
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Getting a social life isn't all that hard. The problem is that
most people make and keep friends without really thinking about how
they do it. They just picked up the skills automatically as they grew up. If
you've always been more of the shy, loner type than you'll probably
appreciate some pointers. Pretty much anyone can have a group of friends if they want to. Here
are some things you may want to get covered first though to make things
easier.
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