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Carlos Xuma
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Carlos Xuma is a dating and seduction advisor, as well as a motivational and life counselor. He's the author of The Dating Black Book, The Seduction Method, and Secrets of the Alpha Man, as well as many valuable articles.
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Articles by this Author
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I was thinking the other day about men's perceptions
about women, and how we "figured out" what it is they're looking for. I
wondered how men could have been so misled regarding this subject, and
just where did it come from? Well, think about it. There are only a few places you could have gotten this information:
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Personality and the Biggest Mistake Men Make with Women
Have you ever met someone that you felt was just really boring? Bland? Dull? It's interesting, because it's rarely about what a person HAS that adds up to their being boring; it's what they're MISSING. Personality... Have you ever met someone that you felt was just really boring? Bland? Dull? It's interesting, because it's rarely about what a person HAS that adds up to their being boring; it's what they're MISSING. A person lacks personality because they are like a song without any hook or catchy riff. You gotta have personality if you're going to get a woman interested in you.
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Double Standard in Dating
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They are saying that it's ok that a woman sees more
than a single guy. But when a guy dates more than a single woman he's
bad boy. Double standards or what!? I was sent an "article" (I use quotes because the value of this
information is in doubt) about men who "step out" on their women. Step out. You gotta love these old terms that journalists keep using because they evoke emotional pictures in your mind. The woman's question to this - (COUGH) - "advisor" was "I don't know why, but I keep attracting jerks."
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Raise the Bar With Women You Date
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Most guys are treating their dating life like a piss-poor investment.
They go out and ogle the high-price stocks (the beautiful women) but
they refuse to get in the game and summon the investment capital
(dating skills.)
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Tantalize her with scents
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One area that guys don't take advantage of enough is
the power of smell with a woman. Scents and smells are very important
to them, and it's been scientifically proven that women are much more
sensitive than men to odors. One
of the most important reasons scents are good for engaging a woman's
attraction for you is that your sense of smell is connected to the most
basic part of your brain, the part that was formed long before your
ability to reason and think. This was because our early ancestors had
to be able to react quickly to scents on the wind that could indicate a
threat, such as a predator.
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How to Create (or Kill) Sexual Tension
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One thing that is critical for developing attraction
with a woman that will lead to your eventual seduction success is
learning how to build and nurture the sexual tension between you. Remember
that when you first begin to interact with a woman, unless she already
has a strong initial attraction for you - sometimes known as
"chemistry", you are in a neutral zone with her. This is a place where
she has yet to make up her mind as to whether you are interesting to
her or not.
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Yes - No - Maybe?
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I was talking the other day with a friend, (a fellow
Alpha Male) and he was joking about the way boys grow up, drawing dicks
on desks, and how they would write the notes to the girls to find out
if they liked him or not. This really got me thinking again about how we're brought up, and how we learn to treat women. Think back to when you were a kid. When you had a crush on a girl, what did you do?
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Three Winning Attitudes That Impress Women
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Have you ever gotten so fed up with dating women and
dealing with all the crap that you just pull out of the game entirely?
You get sick of being blown off all the time, and really sick of never
being able to reach them in the first place. Hey, I've been there. We all reach a point of disgust and anger about all the silly social rules in the dating game and we throw in the towel.
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Validation
Part of our needs as humans is to get validation along
the way to assure us and make us feel approved of. We sought this
validation and approval from our parents and peers when we were
children, and we never really let go of that need when we had to "grow
up." Limit the amount of approval you need from
other people. You can't worry too much about what other people think
about you. It's easy to go through life seeking approval and never
really accomplish anything because you're trying to please everyone.
You can't, and it's a belief that you must leave behind.
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How to Meet Women With No Rejection
Prejudice. What do you think of when you hear this word? For a lot of people it stirs up some anger and bad feelings. It used to do the same for me, too... Before I give up one of my secrets, I want to talk about a dirty word with you. Well, it's not a cuss word, but it's dirty because no one wants to talk about it. That word is: Prejudice. What do you think of when you hear this word? For a lot of people it stirs up some anger and bad feelings. It used to do the same for me, too. I grew up Italian and poor in a city in Upstate New York, near Buffalo. I used to catch a lot of grief for my nationality, but also because we had no money.
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