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Building "Connection" with a Woman
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Virtually all women want to feel an intimate sense of bond and connection with their man in a relationship. So a lot of guys naturally attempt to establish that sense of bond and connection with a girl right away. They
approach a girl at a bookstore or club and attempt to establish deep
rapport right away by eliciting her values or doing an incredible
connection routine. Unfortunately, they walk away brushed off by the girl and scratching their heads as to what they did wrong. What went wrong is that they tried to establish an intimate bond and connection TOO SOON.
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How to solidify a second date with a woman
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Most men men play the "Player's deck" in their dating lives and wonder why a woman doesn't want anything to do with them after their cheap make out session or one-night rendezvous. They rationalize that since they made out with her, got physical with her at the club or maybe even had sex with her that night, that it is a "solidified close" and that a woman will yearn for their company again. Not quite!
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Three Smiles
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"Hey... you know... you have three smiles." (usually, she'll smile in response
to this) "and there's a fourth!" (she'll probably ask something, and then you
improvise along the lines of the following) "Yeah, that was your 'I'm flattered'
smile, and then you have a... um, not fake... but a polite smile... then there's
this really genuine smile when you laugh, and your whole face lights up. Then
there's this smug, 'hey this guy fancies me' smile. I've a feeling I might see
that a lot."
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Confident Rapport
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The majority of theories on how to pick up girls were compiled by guys who had
problems with women and tried to get better. Therein lies the very nature of
the problems with most theory. They all assume that you, going over to the
girl, have less value then her. By assuming this, you're forced to play a role
of lower value. Why on earth are you assuming you are worth less then the girl?
I don't care how hot she is!
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Comfort Builders
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Some rough ideas for building comfort...
1. Point
out your own vulnerabilities, like “I am a total idiot when it comes to reading
maps. If it weren’t for Yahoo directions, I wouldn’t be able to make it to
Starbucks across the street.”
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