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Evolved Dating
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There is a new type of dating that grows from inside the old, "dating game" mode - evolved dating. What is 'evolved dating'? It is dating for people who KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING. In other words, people who are aware of the dynamics of men-women relationships, body language, effective communication, who have their life together and who understand that there is more to dating than pick-up lines. Those people DON'T need the usual dating games, playing hard-to-get etc, etc. Like high-level sportsmen, they can spot each other in an instant.
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How To Rapidly Build Social Value
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Before you get to the Bond and Connection
phase with a girl, you first need to build social value for yourself.
Without enough social value, she won't reciprocate the connection and
think you're just another "nice guy" trying to get into her pants. A great way to build that social value is through planned stories and routines. Planned stories and routines free up your mind to focus on other things. Like a computer, your brain only has so many clock cycles spare. Imagine you're on your way to a bar or club and you're getting yourself into a good state for approaching women.
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How to REALLY Win Friends and Influence People
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There's a popular belief that you need to have a certain approach to
have any success. Like for instance, you have to be extroverted and
entertaining to get the ladies. It just ain't so - the ONLY thing that
matters is your relaxed CONFIDENCE and the way you PROJECT that
confidence, using your body. After that, it's just a matter of picking
your own style. Alright, what will fetch you more success - being introverted or extroverted? I
know you think YOU know what I want you to say. And maybe you're right.
After all, it's a lot easier for extroverts to meet people than
introverts, eh? There's no doubting it. And extroverts also tend to be
more personable, faster to charm, soakers of attention. while
introverts often are alone in a corner.
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Social Vibing
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To me, this is a very important post. Social Intelligence. Having struggled so hard to learn it, I have so
much to say on this topic. In this post I'd like to specifically
discuss social vibing and insecurity (a very focused, but important
peice of the puzzle). There are many subcommunications that are being telegraphed at all times in any interaction. Both verbal and non-verbal. Social interactions have features and customs that I suppose are designed to make them pleasant. As social animals, we have the attribute of actually enjoying socializing just for the sake of socializing. We socially VIBE.
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Vibing Framework
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It seems there are a number of factors that will typically enable
an individual to carry on a seemingly endless, engaging, and effortless
conversation. However, when I look back on my experiences, both within mASF and pre,
the biggest area within which I think most can improve towards this
capability is vibing – ie. knowing which questions to ask, when to ask
them, and how to ground and share your own personality and experiences
in doing so – on any topic a conversation might lead to.
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